How to Effectively Manage Up

With Mary Abbajay

The average age a leader receives their very first training in managing people is at the age of 42. Is it surprising so many of us find gaps in our executive’s management style? It shouldn’t be. Everyone operates differently at work, and our style doesn’t always (often rarely) align with our executive’s. It’s our job as executive assistants to bridge that gap. Managing up teaches how to navigate these style differences to receive more optimal results for ourselves, our boss, and our organization. It’s about facilitating a collaborative relationship with an emphasis on a shared purpose, which is aligned with the executive’s strategy and priorities. Learning this soft skill is key to being a successful strategic assistant.

“Your relationship with your boss matters. Managing up is about building that robust relationship with the people above us on the food chain. Your boss matters. It’s critical to understand how your boss operates. Understanding their quirks, preferences, priorities, work style, and communication style, gives us a better read so that we can work better with them,” explains managing up expert and author, Mary Abbajay.

Abbajay shares her insight through five managing up keys you can start mastering today:

The Executive Leadership Support provides innovative tools to aid assistants in their daily tasks. Through interactive discussions and team building activities, attendees gain crucial skills alongside fellow executive assistants. To learn more about supporting more than one executive, managing and motivating an admin team, or other high-level topics for those supporting the c-suite, attend an Executive leadership Support forum near you!

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Meet Mary Abbajay

Mary Abbajay is an acclaimed and sought after public speaker, organizational consultant, facilitator, trainer, and author. She is the president and founder of Careerstone Group, LLC, a woman-owned professional development consultancy that delivers leading-edge talent and organizational development solutions.

In 2010, Mary was named as one of Washington Business Journal’s Women Who Mean Business and was a Smart CEO Brava Award recipient in 2017. Mary is the author of Managing Up: How to Move Up, Win at Work, and Succeed with Any Type of Boss published by Wiley in March 2018. Looking to buy her book? Get it on Amazon, here.